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ForewordWhat man wouldn’t want to be an All-Star? Whether a lawyer, engineer, school teacher or athlete - whatever the career - we all want to be successful. We all want to be the best. But why don’t we apply that same competitive drive to marriage? Why don’t we make it a priority to become an All-Star husband? In The Great Husband's Playbook: Winning Plays for a Victorious Marriage, Jim Hart challenges us to do just that. In fact, he does more than challenge. He provides a step-by-step blueprint for becoming an elite husband.
Like many men, Jim is an avid sports fan. Like many men, he would have loved to have become a top-flight athlete. But like most of us, he lacked the talent to make it to the pros. But Jim found something else he could be a Michael Jordan at: marriage. In a unique approach that makes all the sense in the world, he takes the terms, teachings and examples of sports and applies them to marriage. As it turns out, being a great quarterback and a great husband require many of the same qualities and traits. An effective team captain and a trusted family leader have much in common. You’ll find out what in The Great Husband's Playbook. In a style that’s straightforward and blunt (much like that of a good coach), Jim tells you what plays work and what plays don’t. He tells you how to read your wife and offers practical advice about every aspect of the marital relationship. You’ll learn how a blue-chip husband handles himself at work, during a disagreement, in financial matters, around other women, even in the bedroom. Teaching like this is invaluable, especially in today’s America, where fatherlessness and divorce are rampant. So many boys grow up without fathers to show them the character, responsibilities and joys of a great husband. Jim fills that void with knowledge that is timely, tested, and of the utmost importance. I have been married for 20 years, my parents have been married for 50 years, and both sets of my grandparents were married for more than half a century, so I know what it takes to make marriage work. Yet I still learned plenty from The Great Husbands Playbook. During every chapter, I found myself saying, “I never thought of it that way.’’ I trust that you will have the same experience. And I trust that you - and perhaps more importantly, your wife - will be as appreciative as I am that Jim shared his playbook. Chris Broussard NBA Analyst and Reporter President of The K.I.N.G. Movement |
Team Family |
Is there unity on Team Family? Are you and your wife both on the same page by putting your egos and personal agendas aside? When teams lack unity, the first place we look to is the leadership and the game plan. As husbands, our job is to provide leadership and be able to create a game plan. The more we function in our role as the leader of the family or Team Captain, the easier it will be for our wife to buy in to the plan and be on our team.
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Huddling Up |
In our marriages, if we aren’t careful, our communications with our wife can mirror the No Huddle Offense. We are living and working at a fast pace because there is so much to accomplish in one day. This eventually leads to a breakdown in communication which may lead to disappointment, anger, frustration, and failure. Of course, we all have different communication styles and different ways of comprehending what is being spoken, but that shouldn’t deter us from clearly and consistently communicating with our wives. If our wives have to be the ones who always huddle us up to talk about an issue, this will become problematic in the marriage. It’s no secret that most women are more verbal than men, but that doesn’t excuse us from lack of effort in this area.
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